The key is communication as is always true in any relationship. Approaching our 16th year and our 40's does play a role in our sex life; I speak from experience. Stress, death of a loved one, money, and a basic feeling of unattractiveness can play a major role in a couples sex life.
Opening the lines of communication can greatly improve your empathy towards your partners reason for being "not interested". If you are both stressed out for the same, or for different reasons, talking about it seems to heal fears or anxiety. Lust plays a huge role when we first meet someone or first start a relationship, then we change (our bodies, we mature).
Change the subject! Shake it up a bit! Talk about something new!
Last week, I found some vacation pictures that we took when we first met in 1994. I ordered Chinese food and bought some beer and bingo. Not everyone drinks beer or has pictures like we do, but you do have a common interest that brought you together. These common interests can spark the romantic flame, just don't get caught up in the day to day bull.
Bottom line: Talk to your partner about it!
If your relationship was based on sex, then it will not last.
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